tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3792904819726809319.post8760519494007349031..comments2023-05-28T02:46:30.010-07:00Comments on MoHo Dilemma: My BYU BishopOrry koonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16475155905058837459noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3792904819726809319.post-1580995727018655362009-02-19T23:39:00.000-08:002009-02-19T23:39:00.000-08:00I have actually had lots of fun coming out to the ...I have actually had lots of fun coming out to the select few people I have told because I really break the mold in their minds: I'm not effeminate in the least, I like and play some pretty rough sports, I like violent movies, I hate pride parades and gender-bending. I'm nothing like what they think a gay guy is.<br><br>And I'm really glad! Because I get to be the means of busting up their stereotypes. That mindset is changed one person at a time until the trend becomes an irresistible cultural shift. Sounds like your bishop and your mom need a dose, David. I can't help thinking I would love to talk to both of them!Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3792904819726809319.post-62676232845918133982009-02-19T15:42:00.000-08:002009-02-19T15:42:00.000-08:00I was just horny and loved women sooo much that I ...<i> I was just horny and loved women sooo much that I couldn't bare to defile them, not even in my mind.</i><br><br>That's a new one. It would be pretty funny if it weren't so sad.<br><br>But, I think you're right, people have preconceived notions of what it means to be gay. So, if something gay is staring them in the face - if it doesn't meet those preconceived notions then it can't be gay.<br><br>I can especially relate to this - as it was a factor in me not being able to accept myself for so many years. I had preconceived notions of what it meant to be gay - I wasn't like that, so I obviously couldn't be gay.Abelard Enigmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3792904819726809319.post-78406390059269854312009-02-19T13:46:00.000-08:002009-02-19T13:46:00.000-08:00Be out.Be ourselves.The more gay people a person k...Be out.<br><br>Be ourselves.<br><br>The more gay people a person knows, the more obvious it will be that the stereotypes are caricatures with only a tenuous link to reality.<br><br>If John Doe doesn't know any gay people, he'll assume the caricatures he sees on TV are accurate. If he knows one gay person, and that gay person doesn't fit the mold, he'll assume that gay person is an anomaly. If he knows who who don't match his expectations, he'll start to question whether his expectations are accurate. If he knows several who challenge the stereotype, he'll realize that it's only a stereotype, and that gay people are as diverse in their interest, mannerisms and behaviors as straight people are.<br><br>Chances are, John Doe <i>does</i> know several gay people who don't fit the mold... only he doesn't know he does because they're all in the closet.<br><br>Coming out is a personal decision, and each individual needs to weigh the benefits and the potential consequences. But as he does, he might consider not only the benefits to himself, but also how his being out might help others.Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15332275934258698026noreply@blogger.com